Concerned Dad Was Furious After He Saw What The Second Grade Teacher Told His Little Boy

Published on 10/02/2020
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On most days, Kamdyn Piland would return home from school with a sunny smile and stories to tell. But when he returned home after a day at school, his parents noticed that he was not acting like his usual self. The second-grader looked upset and seemed like he was going to cry. They tried to ask him what the problem was, but the little boy simply shrugged and ignored their queries. The parents continued to ask him until he gave in and slipped them his homework. This was how they found out that the problem had to do with a note from his teacher. They could not believe what it said.

Out Of The Line

Kamdyn handed the piece of paper to his father. After taking a quick look at the sheet, Chris saw that there was a note on top of the homework. He was shocked when he noticed that it was not a helpful piece of advice at all! As a matter of fact, it was definitely out of the line. It felt less like a critique and more like a personal insult. As a parent, he felt outraged when he found out that an adult was treating his child this way.

Out Of The Line

Out Of The Line

He Did Not Deserve It

What was his child like? Chris has described Kamdyn as a calm little boy who is not the sort to get into trouble. He does not have problems with hyperactivity either. The second grader did not watch TV shows, eat sugary treats, or play video games to an excess. This is the reason they were shocked to read the note from the teacher. No child deserved to receive that kind of treatment!

He Did Not Deserve It

He Did Not Deserve It

Not A Laughing Matter

Chris assumed that the note was going to be a kind piece of advice, so he was shocked when he realized how wrong he had been. It was actually the opposite of that. He could not wrap his head around the thought that something like that came from a teacher. It was truly alarming!

Not A Laughing Matter

Not A Laughing Matter

He Was No Overachiever

When the story took place, Kamdyn was a second grader at Valley View Elementary School. There is nothing that would differentiate it from other public elementary schools. Kamdyn was not the sort of kid that would be described as an “overachiever.” However, he tries to do his best at the very least.

He Was No Overachiever

He Was No Overachiever

For The First Time Ever

His parents did not think that he would be involved in any issues. Kamdyn was a well-behaved boy who tried his hardest at school. They did not ever take note of any bad behavior from their son. However, they started to feel a little concerned at the beginning of the school year as he started to get complaints.

For The First Time Ever

For The First Time Ever

He Worked Hard

Chris did not think that his son had problems with his studies. In fact, he was always impressed by the way Kamdyn answered his homework right away! Most children his age would set it aside and forget about it. Sadly, things started to change for the worse when the school year in question started.

He Worked Hard

He Worked Hard

Concern And Worry

The father could see that his son was starting to change. It was hard for him to see that his son was facing challenges at school. He knew that they had to address the issue sooner or later. However, was there more to the problem than they originally had in mind? What was going on with Kamdyn?

Concern And Worry

Concern And Worry

Struggling To Keep Up

Chris could tell that there was something off. However, he had no idea what it could possibly be. Chris knew that Kamdyn was not the best student, but he was not unintelligent either. It did not seem like him to do a poor job at school. But this dad can’t deny that the young boy was finding it hard to cope.

Struggling To Keep Up

Struggling To Keep Up

No Need To Be Harsh

The teacher who scribbled the piece of critique was called Alyssa Rupp Bohenek. You are probably going to be shocked when you hear what she told Kamdyn! Chris started to wonder if she was the root of his son’s difficulties at school. The note said, “Absolutely pathetic! He answered 13 in 3 minutes! Sad!”

No Need To Be Harsh

No Need To Be Harsh

Meet Alyssa Rupp Bohenek

Alyssa Rupp Bohenek had been an employee of the school for a fair amount of time. People knew that she was not an easy teacher to please. Could this have something to do with the poor performance of his young son? After seeing the note, he could see that she did not particularly like Kamdyn.

Meet Alyssa Rupp Bohenek

Meet Alyssa Rupp Bohenek

He Was Her Target

Kamdyn said that Ms. Boenek did not let him be “free” in class. It felt like she always had it out for him. She would always get on his case when he made a mistake. The teacher would then use this chance to insult the poor boy. Of course, it was not easy for him to deal with this! His self-esteem suffered a lot.

He Was Her Target

He Was Her Target

Children And Bad Grades

It is concerning when your child gets low grades in school. No one likes to hear that their kid is doing badly! However, there are times when it cannot be avoided. The most important thing to do is to find a solution to the problem before it gets even worse. There are many things that can help with this.

Children And Bad Grades

Children And Bad Grades

What To Do About It

You might want to think twice if you are the sort of parent to use the tough love approach. There is a chance that nothing would come out of this. Instead, you can help them bring their grades up by reviewing the lessons at home. If you can afford to pay for tutors, you might want to take that path too.

What To Do About It

What To Do About It

Constructive Growth Is Key

The truth is that negative feedback tends to make things worse instead of improving it. This is even truer when you are dealing with little kids. Criticism is an important part of growth. However, we think that Ms. Bohenek could have delivered her feedback in a much more compassionate and constructive way.

Constructive Growth Is Key

Constructive Growth Is Key

It Brought His Confidence Down

Feedback is a big part of our personal development. Criticism tends to have an effect on the receiver no matter if it is positive or negative. This can have a huge impact on the self-esteem of the person. Sadly, kids should be treated more gently because it can traumatize them when it is done wrong.

It Brought His Confidence Down

It Brought His Confidence Down

A Mentor And Role Model

When you think of what teaching involves, you probably think of educators working on lesson plans and delivering lectures. However, let us not forget that they are supposed to be our mentors as well! In order to be a good mentor, you must first have to be a good role model. Sadly, it looks like a lot of people forget about this part.

A Mentor And Role Model

A Mentor And Role Model

What A Teacher Does

If you are a good leader, you will show leadership skills that your students can emulate. The goal is to leave a positive impact on the youth. Unfortunately, it looks like Bohenek was not very concerned about these things. Otherwise, she would not have left that terrible note on the homework sheet.

What A Teacher Does

What A Teacher Does

Can’t Blame Him

Who can blame Chris for getting upset after seeing that note? He wanted nothing but the best for his child. This father did not think that a person who is tasked to care for Kamdyn would inflict pain on the poor boy. It was quite a big shock. He did not expect that a teacher would attack his child like that.

Can’t Blame Him

Can’t Blame Him

She Was Not Helping

Like many parents, Chris just wanted his son to do well at school. However, it felt like Ms. Bohenek was not motivating Kamdyn at all. To this dad, it felt like she was trying to pull him down as hard as she could. Couldn’t she have given the feedback in a more respectful and gentler manner?

She Was Not Helping

She Was Not Helping

A Cause For Concern

In most cases, one negative comment is not a cause for concern. However, Chris knew that there was a bigger problem at hand when Kamdyn continued to get complaints and reports ever since he started second grade. This did not happen before, so this dad wondered what was going on at school.

A Cause For Concern

A Cause For Concern

It Was Insulting

No matter how you look at the comment, it is always going to look like an attack. There is no way to twist her little note into a positive message. If it had been a negative but fair comment, Chris would have just talked to Kamdyn about it. But this was not the case. He decided to talk to Ms. Bohenek instead.

It Was Insulting

It Was Insulting

She Went Too Far

We are sure that every single one of us had received poor grades in the past. Even so, it is not a good idea to harshly criticize the student. Teachers should be kind and fair when they give feedback. This is how it should be since the goal is to help them grow! Was it necessary to call Kamdyn pathetic?

She Went Too Far

She Went Too Far

Social Media Rant

It was difficult for Chris to learn that this teacher was treating his son that way. He was full of anger and needed to vent. He took to Facebook to share the story and let off some steam. How could he possibly sit back and let Ms. Bohenek do such a thing to his son?

Social Media Rant

Social Media Rant

His Viral Post

After he posted the story on Facebook, his post went viral! People shared and commented on the post one after the other. Chris was surprised to see how much attention it received. The whole country even got to hear the story on the news! Everyone wanted to know what was going to happen next.

His Viral Post

His Viral Post

Strangers Supported Them

As his Facebook post made rounds on the internet, Chris started to get a lot of support. People reached out to him to say that they were right behind him and Kamdyn. In general, the people condemned what Ms. Bohenek did. This was good news since the dad and son duo felt a little vindicated by this.

Strangers Supported Them

Strangers Supported Them

Passion For Teaching

A teacher is responsible for so much more than just imparting lessons and checking papers. It is also their responsibility to ensure that students are learning the things that they need to absorb. For most people, teaching is closer to a passion than to a profession. We have to agree with this assessment!

Passion For Teaching

Passion For Teaching

Her Mean Comment

Chris was aware that students all have different strengths and weaknesses. There will come a time when they will have a hard time coping in school. This was not a problem for him. However, he could not stop thinking about the inappropriate response form the teacher. Her comments did not do anything to help.

Her Mean Comment

Her Mean Comment

Why Learning Is So Important

Learning is something that we do all our lives. It is important to embrace this since this is how we are meant to understand the world. A teacher needs to facilitate this in the classroom. We all need to learn new skills and abilities if we want to make it. Trust us, you would not survive if you do not learn.

Why Learning Is So Important

Why Learning Is So Important

Negativity Is Not Helpful

It is also their duty to ensure that the classroom is a safe environment for learning. For a student to absorb the lessons, they must be in a conducive area. This would not be possible if they feel scared and upset all the time. As you can see, negativity will only kill their drive to learn some more.

Negativity Is Not Helpful

Negativity Is Not Helpful

An Online Petition

At the time, Chris already felt vindicated by the fact that people expressed support for them in droves. He was ready to let it all go when a user launched a petition. This person wanted Ms. Bohenek to get fired! People argued that this was the only thing that would make the situation better.

An Online Petition

An Online Petition

He Felt Overwhelmed

Once more, Chris could not believe all the support that these people were sending their way. They did not even know who they were and yet they felt so passionate about it. He did not expect things to escalate like this when he wrote that post. He was touched that people cared about his son so much!

He Felt Overwhelmed

He Felt Overwhelmed

The Petition And Her Career

If the petition went through, Bohenek would be out of a job. It goes without saying that things were heating up. She had to do something if she wanted to keep her job! The backlash had been very strong. Chris felt better that people would come to their defense no matter what.

The Petition And Her Career

The Petition And Her Career

Not Just His Son

It is important to distinguish between what is right and what is wrong. Chris knew that this was a good opportunity to show that you should not back down when you are in the right. After all, he was not only concerned about the safety of his son! He was also worried that Ms. Bohenek was doing it to other kids.

Not Just His Son

Not Just His Son

Their Responsibilities Go Beyond That

It is very reductive to think that a teacher is only responsible for making lesson plans and then delivering the content. We need to look at it on a more philosophical level as well! It is important for them to encourage learning among students. They should make it fun and enjoyable for the kids.

Their Responsibilities Go Beyond That

Their Responsibilities Go Beyond That

Kids Should Like Learning

Once a student has a fun time learning, things will get easier for the teacher as well. This is what we call a win-win situation! Positive teaching and learning go hand in hand. It is the ideal thing to do since it achieves the goals without letting any negativity enter the equation.

Kids Should Like Learning

Kids Should Like Learning

A Petition For Ms. Bohenek

Chris must have been surprised when he saw a different petition related to the situation. This time, teachers had been trying to help Ms. Bohenek. They did not think that it was appropriate to fire her over the incident. According to them, the others had been going too far to endanger her source of income.

A Petition For Ms. Bohenek

A Petition For Ms. Bohenek

Listen To Kamdyn

A lot of adults wanted to chime in about the situation but let us hear it from Kamdyn. What did the young boy think of it? The second grader explained, “She made me sad, upset, and mad. I think it was a mean thing that she did.” It is devastating to learn that a teacher made him feel like that.

Listen To Kamdyn

Listen To Kamdyn

He Was Only Seven

Mind you, Kamdyn was only seven years old. He said that he felt heartbroken when he saw the note on his homework. In interviews, Chris told news outlets that his son was very young and did not deserve to be treated like that. He would always recall what the teacher told Kamdyn. It was just not right.

He Was Only Seven

He Was Only Seven

Her Rude Response

Just so you know, Chris tried to talk to Ms. Bohenek about the problem. However, she did not seem to feel bad about what she did. “When I sent the concern to her, all she did was reply with a message saying sorry I felt that way about it,” the dad explained. It was a very unprofessional way to handle it.

Her Rude Response

Her Rude Response

She Was Not Fired

The school management eventually learned of the problem and said that it was disturbing. While they agreed that it was a terrible thing to do, they did not really do anything about it. After a couple of short meetings, the management simply said that they would reprimand Ms. Bohenek and nothing more.

She Was Not Fired

She Was Not Fired

Giving Them An Update

Kids make up a very vulnerable age group. This is a very important time in their growth since it is going to serve as the foundation of their personality. It is a formative time that would eventually mold them into the adults that they would become. The school promised Chris that it was going to act accordingly. He took to Facebook to say, “Thanks to all the efforts and support of the dedicated people who signed and shared this petition, I’m happy to announce that the Valley View school board is currently investigating the teacher in question.”

Giving Them An Update

Giving Them An Update

They Would Look Into The Matter

Rose Minniti serves as the superintendent of the school district. She found out about the note that Ms. Bohenek left on the homework sheet. After talking to the administrators of Valley View Elementary School, she announced that they would open an investigation to learn more about the situation.

They Would Look Into The Matter

They Would Look Into The Matter

What The Superintendent Said

The superintendent went on to deliver a response that was fair but considered shady by others. She said that they would have the best interest of the child in mind, although it was also going to protect the employee. According to Minniti, the investigation was not going to rely on comments on social media.

What The Superintendent Said

What The Superintendent Said

They Wanted Justice For Kamdyn

The online petition asking for Ms. Bohenek to be fired has since accumulated over 20,000 signatures. The number makes sense because strangers from across the planet have been asking for her removal from the post! These readers kept a close eye on what was happening. They wanted justice for Kamdyn.

They Wanted Justice For Kamdyn

They Wanted Justice For Kamdyn

Others Turned On Chris

We all knew that it would be too much to ask for every single person on the planet to side with Chris. In fact, some people blamed him for this mess! They said that he should stop using social media so much and instead focus on his child. These folks said that he must have questionable parenting skills.

Others Turned On Chris

Others Turned On Chris

It Was Not His Fault

The same folks said that Chris should have helped Kamdyn answer the homework. If he had done that, then Ms. Bohenek would not have left the rude note on the sheet. We are happy to report that these people had been in the minority. Most people agreed that the teacher was at fault.

It Was Not His Fault

It Was Not His Fault

Occasional Teacher Assessments

The truth is that teachers could also use some help. Every now and then, they should be assessed to see if their teaching style is working on the students. It is a good idea to ensure that everyone is on the same page. They have a lot of responsibility, and we should ensure that they are doing their jobs properly.

Occasional Teacher Assessments

Occasional Teacher Assessments

Different Teaching Styles

Some people look at grades as a measure of how good a teacher is. We can see why they would say this, but this is not the full extent of it. After all, they employ so many different strategies and styles. On top of that, kids tend to learn differently as well. We should take these things into consideration.

Different Teaching Styles

Different Teaching Styles

Train The Teachers

It is also important to note that a person is not necessarily prepared to teach just because they have an education degree. People seem to forget this. This was something that came up in the comment section of the post. Netizens argued whether teachers should get more guidance over the course of their careers.

Train The Teachers

Train The Teachers

A Matter Of Diversity

Among other things, teachers need to learn more about diversity as well. They often teach a classroom full of students from different backgrounds who learn through different means. It is hard to juggle all of these things in one go. How are you supposed to teach them all at the same time when this is the case? This needs to be addressed as well.

A Matter Of Diversity

A Matter Of Diversity

It Started To Make More Sense

It soon came out that Ms. Bohenek was actually pregnant. This new piece of information made people feel more sympathetic. They assumed that her bad mood was a side effect and had something to do with the hormonal changes in her body. Do you think this would justify what she did to Kamdyn?

It Started To Make More Sense

It Started To Make More Sense

They Had A Question For Her

This brought another question to the spotlight. She was on her way to becoming a mother herself, so maybe she would understand where Chris was coming from. The netizens wondered how she would have reacted if she went through the same thing that Kamdyn’s dad did. What an interesting question.

They Had A Question For Her

They Had A Question For Her

Leave Your Bad Mood At The Door

True enough, a teacher should also be inspired if she plans to inspire the students. It is a bad idea to bring their bad mood with them when they clock in for work. They need to learn how to do this so that they would not take it out on the poor kids who just want to learn.

Leave Your Bad Mood At The Door

Leave Your Bad Mood At The Door

Just Another Job

Even though teaching is a noble profession, it is true that some people only care about the money. They do not want to inspire the youth. It is just another way to make ends meet and pay the bills. The truth is that great teachers do not come around often. You are lucky if you ever had one of those in your life.

Just Another Job

Just Another Job

The Future Of Society

It might sound cliché to you, but we can’t deny that children really are the future. We need to raise them to be compassionate and kind people if we want society to stand a chance. A teacher should be in the right state of mind to help mold children into the kind of leaders that we want in the future.

The Future Of Society

The Future Of Society

Be Interested To Teach

We know that it is not always easy, but it is important to be eager to teach. After all, how are you meant to inspire your students when you do not feel any enthusiasm? Kids will see through it if you do not want to teach. This is probably the first step to becoming a good teacher!

Be Interested To Teach

Be Interested To Teach

Go For Positive Reinforcement

When a child notices that the teacher does not really care, they might lose interest in school. Ms. Bohenek did even worse because she pretty much insulted young Kamdyn. Instead of doing the same thing that she did, we should instead try to guide the students who are not doing very well in class.

Go For Positive Reinforcement

Go For Positive Reinforcement

Teachers Are Only Humans

It is also very important to address this. We cannot and should not expect teachers to be perfect human beings. It is only natural for them to sometimes make mistakes. They are not robots, which means that they have emotions and feelings too. We can also be more forgiving of their shortcomings.

Teachers Are Only Humans

Teachers Are Only Humans

We Deserve Second Chances

We all know that it is impossible to be perfect. Everyone makes mistakes every now and then. Most of us deserve another chance. But it is a different matter altogether if something continues to happen ever after that. A person who regrets and understands their errors will avoid doing it over and over!

We Deserve Second Chances

We Deserve Second Chances

She Was A Bully

The netizens mostly agreed with what Beth O’Brien had to say. The Peckville resident said that the teacher was bullying a kid. She believed that Ms. Bohenek deserved to be fired for what she did to Kamryn. It is not a secret that bullying is already a big problem in schools as it is.

She Was A Bully

She Was A Bully

As A Father

It is truly touching to see Chris stand up for Kamdyn. As a father, he did not want anyone to harm his son. He was not asking for the removal of Ms. Bohenek for the sake of it. Chris just wanted to put her away from a position of power that she might abuse again in the future.

As A Father

As A Father

For Both Parties

Chris said that he wanted to help improve relationships between teachers and students. Both parties deserve to be comfortable as much as possible, after all. It is a good idea to raise awareness on this sensitive topic. After all, it does not usually get any attention even though it is a very important thing.

For Both Parties

For Both Parties

What The Others Thought

Netizens wanted to give their two cents on the incident. In general, there was a trend among the reviews. Most people agreed that Ms. Bohenek should not have done that. Yvonne is one of the parents who felt upset by the story. She could not believe that Ms. Bohenek was a teacher.

What The Others Thought

What The Others Thought

They Questioned His Skills

If you ask us, people should have just focused on the note that Ms. Bohenek left. However, some people thought that it was worth bringing Kamdyn’s skills into the mess. What were these people thinking? There was no need for them to be rude. After all, his teacher already gave him hell for it!

They Questioned His Skills

They Questioned His Skills

Brilliant For His Age

Despite the negative feedback from his teacher and those netizens, people thought that he was doing fine. Rose said that Kamdyn was impressive since he could answer 13 questions in just 3 minutes. On top of that, he was only in the second grade! Ms. Bohenek could have done the same thing instead.

Brilliant For His Age

Brilliant For His Age

Far Too Harsh

Another parent by the name of Erona chimed in. She said that Ms. Bohenek was not deserving of a teaching position and should be removed from the post right away. After all, she was shown everyone that she was too harsh to be a teacher! Erona did not think that it is right for anyone to put down a child. We agree with her.

Far Too Harsh

Far Too Harsh

It Was Personal

Margaret decided to bring up another thing to make her point. She said that Chris mentioned that Ms. Bohenek had been doing this for some time already. It did not feel like she really needed to take it up a notch by insulting Kamdyn. She believed that the teacher had beef with the poor boy.

It Was Personal

It Was Personal

An Emotional Response

It is awesome to hear that strangers gave Kamdyn a lot of love and support during such a difficult time in hsi life. Still, Brittney felt sad that he had to experience something like this. In the comment section, she said that Ms. Bohenek should not be a teacher. After all, she made a student feel bad when she should have been encouraging him.

An Emotional Response

An Emotional Response

Things Got Very Heated

Education is a very important topic. It was only a given that things would get heated in the comment section. People had different opinions about what happened and what should happen. It is hard to control social media, after all. This is why people tend to treat it as a freedom wall.

Things Got Very Heated

Things Got Very Heated

What Was Next For Them

But what was next for Chris and Kamdyn after all that? Sandra told him that the best course of action was to simply transfer the poor boy to a different class taught by a different teacher. This way, he would no longer have to suffer any trauma from Ms. Bohenek. We sure hope that they decided to do that. It sounded like the best thing for the young boy.

What Was Next For Them

What Was Next For Them

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